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Temitope Akinrotimi

Temitope is the founder of thesoulmeal.com, an online platform that she shares with her God-given spiritual family and friends. She is a speaker, teacher and youth counselor. She is passionate about inspiring people to find their identity in Christ. Catch her interviewing inspiring leaders on Tongue of the Learned Podcast

Make Excuse for Others….

JOHN 7:24

“Judge not according to the appearance, but judge righteous judgment”

You probably are not affected by what I am about to talk about. If you however discover you are culpable, don’t worry because from my findings there are quite a number of  people who are in the same shoes as you, myself inclusive( I am not proud of this though- Smiles!)

I met this guy sometimes ago and I was full of smiles and all out to be friendly as I welcomed him at a gathering. To my surprise, as I smiled and said all I could to make him feel welcome and comfortable, all he did was raise one hand up and walk away. I almost fainted.

Sincerely speaking, I thought I had done something wrong or that he was probably just full of himself. My conclusion at the end was that he was full of himself and so I made up my mind I was just going to say a simple “Hi” the next time I meet him to avoid any form of embarrassment the second time.

The next time I saw him, it was actually from a distance and I was so glad about this, because that way I would not have to do what I know is not right in God’s sight , which is to react based on the way he responded to me previously.

How wrong I was to think that I had escaped this person and that my plan not to cross his path was successful. As I sat quietly some weeks after, trying to study for the week, this young man calls out to me( not by my name though…) and pulled a chair out and sat right in front of me.

At this point, I am thinking in my head ” Did the Holy Spirit tell him how much his rude response hurt me the last time?” Don’t be quick to say that is what it was , because it was actually far from that. This young man who later became a very good friend of mine after just 30 minutes of having a really hilarious conversation together was asking me to be his Tutor in a subject. Obviously, he was unaware of how hurt I felt by his response the first time we met, neither did he know that I had plans to avoid him from that moment so I do not feel offended or embarrassed by him the next time our paths crossed.

JAMES 1:19

“Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath.”

The gist in simple terms is …. As he talked to me, I realized from the way he spoke that he did not understand all that I said the first day we met, because he does not speak English as much. Within few minutes, he was so relaxed and friendly that he told me so much about himself and how he has being trying to better himself in English language for a couple of weeks, which happened to be the same period I met him and felt bad about his response with one hand up and not even a word.

How sad it is that we are usually too quick to judge a person or an attitude, not knowing where the person is coming from or the reason for such attitude. A lot of times, we loss potential relationships that will benefit us and the other person, as a result of our unguarded and inaccurate conclusions.Read More »Make Excuse for Others….